Friday, 1 June 2012

Susan Kaye Quinn guest post & giveaway

June is a good month here on Much Loved Books, the reason why is I started blogging in June. All this month I have some amazing authors helping me celebrate with guest posts, interviews and giveaways.

To keep up to date with what is going on, just click the picture of the cake in my side bar to the right. This will take you directly to a page with a list and links to each post in case you miss one and some badges I made.

To kick start my blogoversary I have Susan Kaye Quinn with a guest post on celebrations.

About Susan
Susan Kaye Quinn grew up in California, where she wrote snippets of stories and passed them to her friends during class. She pursued a bunch of engineering degrees and worked a lot of geeky jobs, including turns at GE Aircraft Engines, NASA, and NCAR.
Now that she writes novels, her business card says "Author and Rocket Scientist" and she doesn't have to sneak her notes anymore. All that engineering comes in handy when dreaming up paranormal powers in future worlds or mixing science with fantasy to conjure slightly plausible inventions.

Susan writes from the Chicago suburbs with her three boys, two cats, and one husband. Which, it turns out, is exactly as much as she can handle.

Find Susan

Guest Post: Celebrations - Why They Matter
by Susan Kaye Quinn

I am possibly the least qualified person to write on this topic. I am TERRIBLE at celebrating my own accomplishments or milestones. I do much better when celebrating the accomplishments and milestones of others, and not because it's some kind of cheering-on thing (although there's nothing wrong with that, either). It's because I recognize the deep need that people have to celebrate things - it's part of our psyche, the need to demark the end of one thing and the beginning of another, and has been for all of time. Plus celebrating the accomplishments of others is part of my insidious plot to bring more goodness into the world by recognizing the hard work that goes into being a creative force (as opposed to a destructive force, which I do my best to let die a slow strangulation death due to lack of oxygen/attention).

So, if I genuinely believe celebrations are not only fun but imbued with a kind of cosmic importance, then why am I so awful about celebrating my own successes? (And let's not talk about how hard it is for me to accept congratulations - I manage to do it in a socially acceptable manner, but only after years of training. )

To be clear: I don't mean the cringing that some people have about tooting their own horn. I got over my natural inhibitions about self-promotion when I ran for public office and had to win 9,000 votes to be elected to my local school board. I realized quickly that I had to earn people's votes by telling them why they should vote for me: there was no other way for them to know what I stood for, how I planned to serve them, and what kind of representative I would make. So, I have no difficulty telling people when I've released another book (yay, Closed Hearts is out!) or if I've finished a draft (still working on Free Souls, not there yet) or if I've finally beat my 11 year old son in Guitar Hero (not going to happen).

No, the problem I have is in celebrating my own successes personally,  with a glass of wine, or a treat, or a birthday cake (please no to the birthday cakes; we don't need to set the house on fire). In fact, I still minimize my successes in my own mind when people congratulate me on them (at least I don't do it out loud - see socially acceptable above). After much soul searching and several successful things in a row, I've finally figured out that I have an intrinsic fear of success. Which sounds crazy (and probably is), but here's how it goes: I did a thing. It's a pretty cool thing. Now people will expect me to do thing even better and bigger the next time, possibly with sprinkles on top, and good lord, how can I possibly measure up to that?

See? Mental, yes? I'm finally beating back this fear of success with another realization: if I did a thing, it is logical (channeling Spock here) to think that I can do it again. And if I try, even a little bit, maybe I can do it better. But only if I let myself celebrate that thing in the first place. Acknowledge it. Own it.  Realize that the doing of that thing is part of who I am. Internalizing that success is what will allow me to go on and do thing even better next time.

I hope that you can own your successes! Celebrate your accomplishments! And when you do, let me know so I can whole-heartedly cheer for you from the rooftops (see my insidious plot above).


Closed Hearts (Mindjack #2)
$2.99 at AmazonBarnes and Noble (ebook and print)

When you control minds,
only your heart can be used against you.

Susan Kaye Quinn is the author of the bestselling YA novel Open Minds, Book One of the Mindjack Trilogy, which is available on AmazonBarnes and Noble, and iTunes. The sequel Closed Hearts has just been released. Susan's business card says "Author and Rocket Scientist," but she mostly plays on TwitterFacebook, and Pinterest.
Mind GamesOpen MindsClosed HeartsIn His EyesLife, Liberty, and PursuitFull Speed Ahead

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